I have my own story of learning, falling and getting back up again.  I often struggled as a father, leader, partner, and friend.  I had my share of wins, but not many of the ones I really wanted.  Oftentimes my results were very limited and less than desirable.  At one point, my own world was crashing and I was at a loss as to why and what to do.

Then, it finally dawned on me: I was UNAVAILABLE for what I wanted.  It started to make perfect sense that my life was going the way it was and I, alone was responsible for it completely.  I opened my eyes and realized that there was no way I could get the results I was hoping for because on so many levels I was completely UNAVAILABLE for what I wanted.  My thoughts, feelings, words, and actions were either completely absent or severely lacking in being aligned for success.  Period. Intuitively and deep down, I always knew and felt this.  I was just asleep to it.  For years those areas were trying to get my attention, but I was unaware to see it.

My breakthrough began when I started to pay attention and become aware of my unavailability.  I discovered that there was a gap between who I was and who I wanted to be.  I realized that I wanted to be AVAILABLE and I finally started to learn and practice the thoughts, feelings, words, behaviors and skills required to achieve it and create conditions for success.